Released 27 September 2017 Subscribe: iTunes | Stitcher
In this episode, I coach Jack Austin, a purpose-driven business consultant. Jack already has a big impact with his clients, but he wants to be able to connect with new clients more easily. When we started the call, he told me that he sometimes feels uncomfortable in social or ‘networking’ contexts, and believes he needs to get better at that. As we dive into it, we discover that what’s been getting in the way is an extremely common fear; something that countless coaches and transformation professionals share. This was a really touching and moving session for both Jack and me, so I look forward to hearing how it lands for you.
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Selected Links from this episode
The Velveteen Rabbit by Margery Williams
Featured Show Highlights
• If you want to be comfortable making connections you have to be willing to be uncomfortable at times as well (6:18)
• It’s hard to connect when wearing a mask (15:21)
• Who you really are has nothing to make up for – you have nothing to cover up (19:17)
“I have allowed myself to avoid massive amounts of things at different and created unpleasant circumstances as a consequence because of shying away from things that were uncomfortable” (8:56)
“A lot of my life has been focused around showing and trying to look good and the reason for it isn’t so that I can look good, it is so people don’t see what I think is really wrong behind the scene” (13:48)
Jack, so lovely to hear your voice again 🙂
Like your honesty Jamie.
Wow! Relistening really got me in the gut and seem to have water in my eyes.
Well It’s pretty clear that this is not about a mask. This is being willing to do the work and really look bad to get the freedom from facing my own thinking…..and the ridiculous, quite transparent ways I’ve held myself back in the things I love doing the most. Transparently absurd ideas and beliefs that offered a brittle and unexamined “lack of change” rather than safety. Syd’s remark about giving people the sense of safety in their own experience being enough resonates at so much deeper levels upon relistening.
Amazing how difficult it was to see this until I did.