JST 223 – Confession: Sometimes I screw up and don’t want anyone to know
“Everybody hurts. You are not alone.”
-Michael Stipe
I wrote this post on Facebook yesterday and it caught fire, so I thought I’d share it with you here:
[CONFESSION] Sometimes I screw up and don’t want anyone to know
People regularly tell me that it seems like everything I do turns out well.
I assure them that isn’t the case; that lots of the things I do don’t work out the way I want them to.
I explain that it’s a case of ‘survivorship bias’ – that they’re only noticing the things that work out, and not all the things that don’t.
But they typically don’t believe me. And I could never quite understand why not.
Then suddenly today I realised why not.
When the things I do don’t work out the way I want them to, I feel bad.
What kind of bad?
Ashamed, embarrassed, stupid.
Like a fraud, a fuckup, a failure.
And I don’t want anyone to know. I’d love to tell you that I’ve got a positive attitude about this kind of thing, but I don’t.
When I get things wrong, I don’t want you to know about it. I don’t want ANYONE to know about it.
Why not?
Insecurity, plain and simple. So I don’t post about it, I don’t share about it. I don’t tell YOU about it.
So why am I telling you about this today?
18 months ago, my book RESULTS became a Sunday Times Bestseller.
Not long after that, I got a book deal to write The Little Book of Results.
The book launched at the end of last month, and for the past 10 days we’ve been doing a big Amazon push on it.
And it hasn’t worked very well.
I’m super-proud of this book, but it hasn’t scraped a number 1 in a single Amazon category.
And my first instinct was to brush over it; just not to mention it and keep my powder dry until next time I’ve got something to celebrate.
But if I brushed over it, I’d also be brushing over an opportunity to tell you the truth.
To show you that we’re all in the same boat.
To tell you that I sometimes hurt too.
So I’m telling you.
And if you’re hurting today – if you’re feeling like a fraud, a fuckup or a failure – I understand.
I get that it sucks.
Let’s have a bit of a moan, then brush ourselves off, get back up and keep going.
If you want to get a copy of The Little Book of Results, you can get it here: www.JamieSmart.com/getresults (I may feel like shit, but I haven’t given up yet ;-))
And if, going forward, you’d like me to share the lows as well as the highs, tell me.
Big love
Jamie
PS I’m jumping on a flight to New York in the morning. Why? Because Michael Neill, Garret Kramer and I are doing two events:
a) On Friday night, we’re doing a 3-hour session at Subculture called ‘The Performance Principle’. The first 91 places are booked but we’ve got a few seats left, and tickets are only $25 each, so if you’d like to come and meet us in person, you can get the details and book your place at https://www.michaelneill.org/
b) Then, over the weekend, we’re spending 2 days with a small group of people who are ready to get in the game and take things to the next level. Again, we’ve got a few places left, so if you’d like to join us, you can find out more here: https://www.michaelneill.org/
Big love
Jamie
Jamie Smart
Sunday Times Bestselling Author, Speaker and Executive Coach
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