Released on May 29th, 2020
We’ve each had the experience (even if only occasionally) of feeling deeply connected with ourselves, with another person and even with life itself. And everyone’s had the experience (even if only occasionally) of feeling isolated, disconnected and alone.
Both of these polarities are universal aspects of the human experience. In this article, we’re going to explore the power of connection to facilitate deep transformative experiences for you and the people you care about.
So the first question to ask is “Where does connection come from?” To answer this question I’d like to draw a distinction between the experience of connection and the fact of connection:
The Fact of Connection: In his fascinating video, “A Universe From Nothing”, the physicist Lawrence Krauss gives a brilliant, eloquent and elegant proof that the universe has arisen from nothing; from a sea of formless energy. While I’m pretty sure Krauss would shudder at the buoyant and hopeful conclusions I draw from what he’s saying, the fact of the matter is that we’re each made of the “nothingness” from which the universe sprang. Another way of describing this nothingness is “formless energy”. On one level, we can experience ourselves as separate from each other, and distinct from our physical environment. This is a practical matter; as well as having strong survival value, it makes it easy to know whose teeth to brush. But on another level, it seems to be a matter of fact that we are all made of this same formless energy. Like waves in an ocean, we are all part of the same undivided wholeness. Just as waves don’t leave the ocean and “go solo”, we are never disconnected from this infinite ocean of energy. This is the fact of connection.
The Experience of Connection: The experience of connection is often described as a feeling of love and closeness combined with rapport. People sometimes say “We just clicked” or describe themselves as being on the same wavelength. The felt experience of connection is an expression of the fact of connection and is always available to us when there’s nothing else getting in the way. And the thing that tends to get in the way is contaminated outside-in thinking. Contaminated thinking arises from what I call the “outside-in misunderstanding”, the mistaken belief that our feelings are coming from somewhere other than the principle of Thought in the moment. We all find ourselves in contaminated thinking from time to time, and when we do, the experience of connection rapidly evaporates. But the moment we insightfully see the inside-out nature of life, we fall out of our superstitious thinking and back into the moment. And when we fall back into the present moment, we find ourselves back in the experience of connection with our true selves, with other people, and with life as a whole.
The experience of connection is natural for every person when there’s nothing else in the way. But the fact of connection is constant, even when you’re not aware of it. And here’s the cool thing: as you insightfully realise the fact of connection, the experience of connection becomes deeper and more frequent.
Have a wonderful weekend!
Jamie Smart, Sunday Times Bestselling Author, Speaker and Executive Coach
PS You know how most people have a lot to deal with, a lot on their minds? We teach something that automatically clears your mind, and leaves you with the clarity and confidence that you have everything you need to solve your problems and enjoy life to the full.
PPS. If you’re a coach, therapist or changeworker, the whole domain of connection is super-relevant. Why? A sense of connection is the ‘transformation superhighway’ for coaches and changeworkers. When you’re in the experience of connection…
– You “carry your credibility”, giving your client a powerful and unique experience of who they really are.
– You can impact your client deeply, with both of you being guided by wisdom.
– You’re more available to insight, fresh new thinking that can help you and your client.
– You’re in the space for genuine transformation.
We go into this in-depth in the Clarity Certification Training programme. We’re going to be launching the 2021 Clarity Certification Training soon, so if you’d like to be on the advance list, just comment and type “COACH” and we’ll be in touch.